Habit of listening to NO

 

We have many books that talk about how to say No. 

Shouldn't we also write few on how to listen to a No ? 

My daughter [4] has an issue with word "No", yes you read it correctly she cannot listen to someone saying "No" to her, the reaction and the sound associated with the reaction varies from person to person and I get the highest and best volume somehow she knows I like good music in high volumes, and its even bigger Yes to say that our own kids crying is also music, and what coming from window of next house is [You are good reader and I know you already filled blank so I will not add]

If you want to ask

"Why do you want to write a blog to tell that your girl cries each time you say "No"", my focus is on grownups who cannot take No. We find them all around, but let's talk about those in office. 

Again why about only people in office, as of today they are the ones who are eating biggest chunk of my time's pizza, I will write about other walks when they start to bite my time pizze more. 

After a point of time in career when one goes into position of taking decisions people don't like to listen to No, this is true, people want to get things done one or other way. 

If things keep rolling in this model the person who is getting them done will have stronger conviction on his style. 

Again I am talking with experience in India and about Indian IT environment, I am sure others would also have mapping of this traits here and there. 

What is wrong in getting things done. 

How are you getting them done is more important. Like I mentioned above if a person is getting things done by always pushing it, on long run the quality of product is going to be not so good. This is known even to a kid I need not write a blog for this. But I am here to write about some trends that happen due to such style of working. 

1. Those with less experience 
These are people on whom we put more load thinking they will learn and we get to push a major chunk to deliver, but in background these people are only learning to find better places outside and market always has people who hire this single digit experienced people. [1st Frustrated class] 

2. Those in middle of the ladder 

These are in the middle path only to get stamped on their face by everyone trying to go up or those who think they need to go up, these are bigger frustrated Chunk. 

So to have a pit stop and see what is being written again quickly 
1. Too much push always becoming way to work 

2. Frustrated Chunk is raising in the really working class. 

There are people who make noise as 1st circle around this frustrated chunk and say we are guiding these folks to goal, but since those shouting folks circle the frustrated folks, the English goal becomes Hindi gole [round], you know these people and probably you are scolding them every now and then in mind, so I acknowledge them and don't write more about them and waste your time here too. 

Our goal is to see how the frustrated folks who are surrounded by circles and circles of shouters be saved. 
HaHa saved its very big word, maybe we can give them some hint on what is being lost in that circle and if they understand and fix it, those circling around them might back off a feet distance giving them time to breath, let this be critical point of this post and then let's conclude post that. 

Time is being wasted 

You have all the rights to say "Yes we already know if what you are doing here nothing less." 
since you read till here I just wanted to share a new perspective on how it is getting wasted. 

1. people don't share correct procedure / content of certain work to be done and create first string on our path strucking to which we fall on our face and break our nose. 
2. While are sneezing due to step 1 we have a deadline imposed by many people we spoke about because they are bent on deciding to deliver on any cost 
3. We thus end up sitting on same topic for longer than needed 

In rush of delivering not just what is in hand but all that we promised without creating a strong base 1-2-3 keeps going in loop. 

This is last point I don't want to waste more time..............

Hence 1st and foremost things a good leader has to do is to find and stop the time waste and to do this he/she needs to develop habit of listening to No, then they will know. 

Thanks for reading.

PS: 

 want to add one more point 

I want MSteams to charge call feature and group call feature separately on hourly and minutes basis imagine what Microsoft can earn 

At least someone should benefit from the use of resources

Corruption

 India loves to debate about corruption even after knowing that there is no single solution that works effectively to wipe it off.

THE MAJOR EFFECT OF CORRUPTION IS DELAY IN WORK.

Everyone thinks others have to change for the corruption to end.

Moreover they think its only restricted to government establishments and those who have loads of money are the main reason for corruption. 

And the biggest misnomer is that the private sector is free from it.

I have discovered one thing, corruption is everywhere and is the way of living in this world, except that levels of its presence is high in some places and very low in others.

Why am I writing this here? 

Because I felt I discovered one of its form which is dangerous not just to one person but to many generations to come. 

I just pray that there is a new kind of industry to work that would take over the current trend of working in IT. 

I would now connect 3 points I have mentioned above.

1. Corruption

2. Its presence in IT 

3. My prayer for a new industry for next generation to work.

IT/Software whatever we want to call it, is a very peculiar industry where people have to depend on other person for certain aspects of work. 

IT/Software is also place where there is no restriction in timing of person starts and ends work. 

IT/Software is one that can be sold/bought/services are offered round the clock.

Considering the nature of this round the clock business and person's own clock of starting and ending work day is one aspect where delay can be introduced in work, another aspect is people with-holding the knowledge, these two points make IT more prone to corruption than any other sector.
only positive side is the real customer is not effected by this kind of corruption moreover he gets quicker solutions.

Randomness of work day is coloured as flexibility but its real shade is indiscipline.

With-holding of knowledge is termed as Subject-Matter-Expertise real term is insecurity.

Why should we be worried about such a format of corruption, and want to pray that next generation should get another stream to work in? 
Because may be 2 or 3 out of 100 people working in this IT field would be able to put their own priorities on top of work and live the way they want majority would be followers and at least 40 of 97 would be corrupt and rest are just the effected chunk, while in the 57 there might be 7 who can swim across in any condition but 50 are just pulling days and if we have categories and sub categories where in people eat off time from each other 
This time that has to be spent with family or for self improvement is being eaten away, and our next generation is learning this randomness of life as a way to live. 

Our parents have lived a disciplined life due to limited work hours yes they had financial stress but they had time to spend with us. 

We saw teachers, bankers, farmers, Govt-Employees as the professions our parents took up, even those in private sector who did long hours were not bothered about work once they came home, but this IT/Software never vacate your mind space, leaving not time to sharpen your brain and get an idea to invest time wisely.

Even I saw parents who insist on discipline in the kids working on IT but the pull of indiscipline in this sector is so strong and stronger is the financial mismanagement by kids like taking bigger loans and entangling themselves to endless work-hours telling they need more to re-pay and maintain life-style. 

Just because we don't have that much financial issues the real time of life is being eaten away. 

before calling others I agree I am corrupt, I am writing this a note for myself, maybe I would try to climb into a stage where I can use my time better and be better example for my kids. 

Am I asking to stop working hard, not take the extra mile that is needed to excel in career? 
No that's not my message, I am only worried about the time that is getting wasted.

It is getting wasted and people think its getting utilized.
They are convinced it is correct,
That's my only worry.

Thanks for giving your time to this topic.

Jeeneki chahat to....

Jeeneki chachat to hum bhi rakhte hain 

 the 1st two lines reminded me of GaraLakantha form of Shiva 
 
maloom hain ki paani zehar se bhara hain 
koi nahi peeyega to saare marte hain 
jeeneki chachat to hum bhi rakhte hain 
to zeharko bhi zindagika ek hissa dete hain 

What if Rama said No to Sita

 Simplification has been the motto behind any scripture written in India! 

Veda Vyasa Maharshi classified Vedas and said these are complex so I have to simplify 

Veda -- Vedanga -- Sootras -- Upanishad -- Purana -- > This is where he left simplification probably he would have covered last mile human of population then available and would have felt his simplification succeeded. 

But then the more days passed people might not have gone to the top most knowledge and simplified what is in hand as a result we have concept of Eka-Shloki  

The Eka Sholki for Ramayana starts as  

aadau Rama tapovanadi gamanam drushtwa mrigam kaanchanam 

This is my attempt to apply a learning from this shloka to day-to-day life so I felt like not writing full Shloka initially but its a job of merit to think of Ramayana so let me copy-paste full shloka so that you -- my reader also get the benefit 

आदौ राम तपोवनादि गमनं हत्वा मृगं कांचनं
वैदेही हरणं जटायु मरणं सुग्रीव संभाषणम् ।
वाली निग्रहणं समुद्र तरणं लंकापुरी दाहनं
पश्चात् रावण कुंभकर्ण हननं एतध्दि रामायणम्।।

ādau rāma tapovanādi gamanaṃ hatvā mṛgaṃ kāṃcanaṃ
vaidehī haraṇaṃ jaṭāyu maraṇaṃ sugrīva saṃbhāṣaṇam .
vālī nigrahaṇaṃ samudra taraṇaṃ laṃkāpurī dāhanaṃ
paścāt rāvaṇa kuṃbhakarṇa hananaṃ etadhdi rāmāyaṇam..

https://shlokam.org/adaurama/

And now we will continue what if Rama said No to Sita-mata's request to get golden deer 

She would have got  upset with him, she would have been upset for few hours and yes that would impact Rama for some hours and also LakshmaNa, but Rama felt this is a small task and took it up which changed the course of their life forever, they were upset for a longer duration in the life but the story remained in lives of humanity and would remain forever. 
Now we also quite often get into situations where we take a step and it opens up box of pandora and roller coaster drive triggers on its own. 

Was it in Rama's thought process to say yes / no based on a lengthy discussion or just he thought let me do it. 

Do we get time to think this much before we take any next step or do we just take it to get out of current situation. 

This makes me think that even if we are not aligned, there is a power that is running business logic in cloud container called brain, so let's go with flow. 

Now you might ask will my story be same as Rama's if I go with all Chaos, Yes of course, because Rama's story is not written to tell us how Rama lived but it is telling us how to live, we have to live Rama's way -- that is being tranquile in any condition. 

Hope I have kept it simple enough, a famous Telugu vaggeyakara [composer-lyricist] said - "Takkuvemi manaku Ramundu okkadu undu varaku" meaning "what do we lack in life as long as Rama is in it?" 
We lack nothing, have a great life.

Jai Shri Rama 
Jaya Guru Datta.  

We stopped living step by step

 When we don't know how to use a thing, we end up misusing it. 

It used to take days to deliver a handwritten letter, but if we open some boxes on the attic having letters may they be 10 years old or 100 years old when we read them we feel good. 

But now it doesn't even take any time to send a message, while we see other person is typing we prepare to answer. 

I always liked the way R K Murthy sir started his day, he used to bow in front of his desktop at office with folded hands and start the CPU, I know people who don't shut down the GenX laptops for months or sometimes unless an upgraded forces them with a timer starting 8 hours before it can say "I will reboot now"

2 examples are enough now imagine your own story about 

1. Camera 

2. walkman, disk man, mp3payer 

3. dvd player VCP, VCR 

4. TV 

All being mercilessly murdered by your favorite object in life "mobile phone"

Heights of misuse is with internet and when it gets along with laptop you are done. 

while some people are now talking about ChatGPT which would take over lives of humans by taking over jobs.

are we really living now I think we are just feeling we are better with these but someone else is making use of these for their best interest and we really don't know who it is. 

I pray that everyone including me one day get out of this misuse.! 

Engineering

Try to google engineering and probably 1st result you would see is something like 

Engineering is the designing, testing and building of machines, structures and processes using maths and science. Studying it can lead to a rewarding career.

Is this rewarding career able to build a rewarding life ? sometimes yes sometimes no manyatimes not known.

From past 17 years I have been an engineer and have been living among great group of engineers. 

Like everyone breath they have issues too.

I wonder how come Engineers have issues by definition they have to design, test, build using math science. 

By definition their job is to create solutions to issues using all knowledge acquired, not just in matter of months or years but it is more than a decade of learning that goes into getting an engineer out. 

How come still they are frustrated?

How come they are still miserable? 

Ask me why I feel they are frustrated and miserable, just look at amount of memes that come of office, work-life-balance and look at the kind of sad managers who spent years rotting in same place to get to top and got to top only to understand they problems have tripled. 

Now if I ask people to think about their life and use logic they might get into loop of overthinking, because they don't know what to think about.

So to conclude my expectation is....

Apply your education in your own life first 

Build tools and process that keep you happy, it is never too late to apply what you have studied. 

your engineering skill is not finite and the employer who has enslaved you will not fire you just if you attempt to apply any skill to your own life to make it better 

if you are engineer it is not that you only need to use that knowledge at a job, your life is more important than just a job 

Please be a happy human by being Engineer  of your own life.