Habit of listening to NO

 

We have many books that talk about how to say No. 

Shouldn't we also write few on how to listen to a No ? 

My daughter [4] has an issue with word "No", yes you read it correctly she cannot listen to someone saying "No" to her, the reaction and the sound associated with the reaction varies from person to person and I get the highest and best volume somehow she knows I like good music in high volumes, and its even bigger Yes to say that our own kids crying is also music, and what coming from window of next house is [You are good reader and I know you already filled blank so I will not add]

If you want to ask

"Why do you want to write a blog to tell that your girl cries each time you say "No"", my focus is on grownups who cannot take No. We find them all around, but let's talk about those in office. 

Again why about only people in office, as of today they are the ones who are eating biggest chunk of my time's pizza, I will write about other walks when they start to bite my time pizze more. 

After a point of time in career when one goes into position of taking decisions people don't like to listen to No, this is true, people want to get things done one or other way. 

If things keep rolling in this model the person who is getting them done will have stronger conviction on his style. 

Again I am talking with experience in India and about Indian IT environment, I am sure others would also have mapping of this traits here and there. 

What is wrong in getting things done. 

How are you getting them done is more important. Like I mentioned above if a person is getting things done by always pushing it, on long run the quality of product is going to be not so good. This is known even to a kid I need not write a blog for this. But I am here to write about some trends that happen due to such style of working. 

1. Those with less experience 
These are people on whom we put more load thinking they will learn and we get to push a major chunk to deliver, but in background these people are only learning to find better places outside and market always has people who hire this single digit experienced people. [1st Frustrated class] 

2. Those in middle of the ladder 

These are in the middle path only to get stamped on their face by everyone trying to go up or those who think they need to go up, these are bigger frustrated Chunk. 

So to have a pit stop and see what is being written again quickly 
1. Too much push always becoming way to work 

2. Frustrated Chunk is raising in the really working class. 

There are people who make noise as 1st circle around this frustrated chunk and say we are guiding these folks to goal, but since those shouting folks circle the frustrated folks, the English goal becomes Hindi gole [round], you know these people and probably you are scolding them every now and then in mind, so I acknowledge them and don't write more about them and waste your time here too. 

Our goal is to see how the frustrated folks who are surrounded by circles and circles of shouters be saved. 
HaHa saved its very big word, maybe we can give them some hint on what is being lost in that circle and if they understand and fix it, those circling around them might back off a feet distance giving them time to breath, let this be critical point of this post and then let's conclude post that. 

Time is being wasted 

You have all the rights to say "Yes we already know if what you are doing here nothing less." 
since you read till here I just wanted to share a new perspective on how it is getting wasted. 

1. people don't share correct procedure / content of certain work to be done and create first string on our path strucking to which we fall on our face and break our nose. 
2. While are sneezing due to step 1 we have a deadline imposed by many people we spoke about because they are bent on deciding to deliver on any cost 
3. We thus end up sitting on same topic for longer than needed 

In rush of delivering not just what is in hand but all that we promised without creating a strong base 1-2-3 keeps going in loop. 

This is last point I don't want to waste more time..............

Hence 1st and foremost things a good leader has to do is to find and stop the time waste and to do this he/she needs to develop habit of listening to No, then they will know. 

Thanks for reading.

PS: 

 want to add one more point 

I want MSteams to charge call feature and group call feature separately on hourly and minutes basis imagine what Microsoft can earn 

At least someone should benefit from the use of resources

Corruption

 India loves to debate about corruption even after knowing that there is no single solution that works effectively to wipe it off.

THE MAJOR EFFECT OF CORRUPTION IS DELAY IN WORK.

Everyone thinks others have to change for the corruption to end.

Moreover they think its only restricted to government establishments and those who have loads of money are the main reason for corruption. 

And the biggest misnomer is that the private sector is free from it.

I have discovered one thing, corruption is everywhere and is the way of living in this world, except that levels of its presence is high in some places and very low in others.

Why am I writing this here? 

Because I felt I discovered one of its form which is dangerous not just to one person but to many generations to come. 

I just pray that there is a new kind of industry to work that would take over the current trend of working in IT. 

I would now connect 3 points I have mentioned above.

1. Corruption

2. Its presence in IT 

3. My prayer for a new industry for next generation to work.

IT/Software whatever we want to call it, is a very peculiar industry where people have to depend on other person for certain aspects of work. 

IT/Software is also place where there is no restriction in timing of person starts and ends work. 

IT/Software is one that can be sold/bought/services are offered round the clock.

Considering the nature of this round the clock business and person's own clock of starting and ending work day is one aspect where delay can be introduced in work, another aspect is people with-holding the knowledge, these two points make IT more prone to corruption than any other sector.
only positive side is the real customer is not effected by this kind of corruption moreover he gets quicker solutions.

Randomness of work day is coloured as flexibility but its real shade is indiscipline.

With-holding of knowledge is termed as Subject-Matter-Expertise real term is insecurity.

Why should we be worried about such a format of corruption, and want to pray that next generation should get another stream to work in? 
Because may be 2 or 3 out of 100 people working in this IT field would be able to put their own priorities on top of work and live the way they want majority would be followers and at least 40 of 97 would be corrupt and rest are just the effected chunk, while in the 57 there might be 7 who can swim across in any condition but 50 are just pulling days and if we have categories and sub categories where in people eat off time from each other 
This time that has to be spent with family or for self improvement is being eaten away, and our next generation is learning this randomness of life as a way to live. 

Our parents have lived a disciplined life due to limited work hours yes they had financial stress but they had time to spend with us. 

We saw teachers, bankers, farmers, Govt-Employees as the professions our parents took up, even those in private sector who did long hours were not bothered about work once they came home, but this IT/Software never vacate your mind space, leaving not time to sharpen your brain and get an idea to invest time wisely.

Even I saw parents who insist on discipline in the kids working on IT but the pull of indiscipline in this sector is so strong and stronger is the financial mismanagement by kids like taking bigger loans and entangling themselves to endless work-hours telling they need more to re-pay and maintain life-style. 

Just because we don't have that much financial issues the real time of life is being eaten away. 

before calling others I agree I am corrupt, I am writing this a note for myself, maybe I would try to climb into a stage where I can use my time better and be better example for my kids. 

Am I asking to stop working hard, not take the extra mile that is needed to excel in career? 
No that's not my message, I am only worried about the time that is getting wasted.

It is getting wasted and people think its getting utilized.
They are convinced it is correct,
That's my only worry.

Thanks for giving your time to this topic.